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Meditation quiets your mind when you are stressed.

Meditation gives you clarity to make wise decisions

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You will be able to counteract the stresses of life by relying on meditation. When you take the time to refocus your mind, You are better able to deal with situations.

At sunrise, Take a few moments to center my thoughts. Clearing your mind in the morning helps you to approach the day with a peaceful outlook. It is easier to stay calm at work when you start the day with a tranquil mindset.

When projects at work start to get overwhelming, take some time to walk. Walking quietly outdoors gives you a chance to relax and regroup.

Concentrate on your breathing when walking. It takes your mind and spirit back to a neutral place. Doing that allows you to let go of the feelings that threaten to upset your state of contentment.

Before bed each night, spend several moments lifting the day’s burdens. It is easier to sleep restfully when your mind is clear of the day’s activities.

Scented candles and serene sounds help you to unwind. Meditate in a setting that gives you a sense of freedom and peace.

Today, Make time to re-center your body, spirit and mind. Your days are spent more effectively when you are free of mental burdens. You will achieve quietness when you take the time to meditate your stress away.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. What creative techniques can you employ to squeeze in some quiet time each day?
  2. Which other practices can help you release stress?
  3. How can you achieve more positive results from meditation





I had to stop the video 3 times just to hold myself and not cry! He is so right! We are selfish and that’s why we quit! And once we quit, the second time it will be easier and third time it will become our habit. But one day it all will come back to hit us back! And it will hurt more than we have continued the first time although it was hard!

What I learned today:
1. Be patient – Engage in consistent action
2. Do extra drills
3. People quit because they don’t have pride in what they do
4. People stop because they’re selfish and it’s just about them
5. You need a driving force for what you do that’s bigger than you
6. Quote: “Son, whatever you start, you make sure you finish.”
7. Don’t let quitting become a habit
8. Life is a blessing and life is a gift.
Thanks Inky =)

Keep diary and bullets in it and review them regularly. They’re like a mini shot in the arm and it will keep you moving in the right direction =)

If you try to fire others please be sure you credit Inky Johnson as the original source =)



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Ways to deal with Unlocking Your Potential

Do you wonder why you haven’t accomplished more with your life? Do you feel that you have great potential locked up inside of you? Most adults feel this way.

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No one ever truly reaches their potential, but it’s discouraging that so many of us never even scratch the surface of our potential.

Are you ready to find out what you can do?

Find out what you’re really capable of accomplishing:

  1. Be bold. This is the number one tip for unleashing your potential on the world. Your limited achievements are likely due to the fact that you’re timid. If you were out there doing your best each day, you’d be too busy piling up successes to read an article like this. Stop caring about the opinions of others and show the world what you’ve got.
  2. Have bold goals. To live up to your potential, you need goals. Goals provide a direction for your energy and effort. Effective goals are motivating, which is great if you’re going to set bold goals! Avoid overwhelming yourself. Goals should be bold, but not overwhelming.
  1. Combine your strengths and interests. Do you really care about maximizing your chess-playing potential if you don’t enjoy playing chess? You’ll have the most potential in the areas where you show natural strength and have a high level of interest. What are you good at that you also enjoy?
  2. Get expert assistance. Some of the leading experts in the world still have a coach or mentor. The right mentor can help you to reach your potential faster than you can do it alone. Spend the time necessary to find a good mentor. It’s like putting your progress on the fast track.
  3. Make progress each day. A small amount of progress, accumulated over time, can result in amazing progress. Avoid overwhelming yourself by setting a schedule or goals that you can’t maintain. But, be sure to make some progress each and every day. The amount of progress you can make in a year would be staggering.
  4. Develop habits that help you accomplish your goals. Keeping with the same theme of making progress each day, your habits are those things you do each day. An effective set of habits all but guarantees success.
  • Examine your goals and determine the habits that would make success likely. The hardest job you have is creating habits. Once the right habits are in place, there’s little else to worry about. Create an effective routine and stick with it.
  1. Determine your obstacles. There’s always something in the way. It might be a lack of time, money, or other resource. Maybe you have a spouse that demands a lot of your time. Maybe you live in the wrong place. After all, it’s not easy to maximize your surfing skills in Missouri.
  • Create a plan for dealing with your obstacles. What can you do to overcome them, or at least minimize them? What do you need? What do you need to stop doing? How can you alter your life to make success more likely?
  1. Expect success. If you expect failure, you’re bound to fail. Why not give yourself the benefit of the doubt and expect good things? If you have solid goals, good habits, and a smidge of discipline, there’s no reason to doubt yourself.

Making a few decisions, acting boldly, and finding a mentor are just a few of the things you can do to unlock your potential.

Make today the day you start living at your highest level.

What are you waiting for?

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Is it accurate to say that you are Really A Martial Artist?



It’s a simple question, isn’t it? Of course the answer depends on how you define Martial Artist.

Is someone who buys a Martial Arts uniform, signs up at a gym to learn Martial Arts techniques a Martial Artist? I believe that these are the first steps in order to become one but these steps alone will never make you one.

In my experience with students I learned that you may train a long time really hard, you may learn many techniques getting in great shape and you may compete even at the highest level but that only makes you a fighter not a Martial Artist.

If you are just training your body and the physical aspect of Martial Arts without training your mind, you are missing the real purpose of training Martial Arts.

Here are just some of the mental traits you should be training as much as you are training your body:

1. Dedication-This does not mean that you train every day, but it means that you commit yourself longterm to learn all mental and physical aspects of Martial Arts on a regular basis. It also means that you put yourself first with the knowledge that the more you work on yourself the more you have to share with others

2. Humility- It is very humbling to learn Martial Arts and you will learn instantly to check your ego. But the real challenge in humility starts as you become good at the physical aspect of it. Will you allow your ego to make you arrogant and get an attitude or are you able to stay humble? We say: ”Leave the ego off the mat” when we really should say: “Never allow your ego to control your mind!”

3. Courage-Sure it takes courage to confront someone but this courage pales in comparison to the courage it takes to confront yourself and your own behavior. As a Martial Artist you are fighting your fears, your false beliefs and your low self-esteem as much as you are fighting your opponents and you should never don’t stop working on becoming a better person.

4. Openness-You have to be open for every Martial Arts class. Sometimes it is the techniques that will teach you something new, sometimes it is your partner and sometimes it is yourself who teaches you a lesson. Everyone can be your teacher if you are ready to learn. Openness helps you to grow your mind as much as it helps you to grow your skills.

5. Empathy-At times we find ourselves in inferior positions when we fight and at other times you end up getting hurt. It takes empathy for others to forgive them for they shortcomings and it takes the same empathy to forgive yourself for your mistakes every day. Practice empathy every day to not dwell on failure on your part or on the failure on the part of others

6. Persistence-As we learn Martial Arts we hit highs and lows periodically. It takes persistency to continue in spite of failure and to keep learning in spite of success. This persistency will give us the confidence that we can achieve anything we want in life. In Martial Arts it is a big equalizer since persistency beats talent every time.

7. Respect-Martial Arts teaches you to respect everyone, no matter what size, age and background.  You simply can never tell what people are capable off just by looking at them and this respect also includes self-respect. It keeps you acting with honesty and integrity even when nobody is watching.
There are probably a lot more mental attributes that make you an actual Martial Artist but maybe the insight today is that these are the same traits that make us good human beings too.

So, maybe in the end the question that really matters is not “Are you a Martial Artist?” but rather “What kind of human being are you?” and “Can Martial Arts help you to become a better one?” Finding the answer to these questions is a pretty good reason for me to keep training and I hope it is for you too.

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How to use meditation to gain insight

Develop Insight With Meditation


True insight doesn’t come from thinking or a book. Insight is founded in experience and can be accessed through practice. The most effective practice is that of meditation.

Meditation results in clear awareness in the absence of thinking. This is an effective state for insightfulness.

How to use meditation to gain insight:

1. Make the time. Meditation requires practice and regular effort. Early morning and late evening seem to work the best. But 15 minutes at lunch can work, too. The more time you can spare the better, but as little as 15 minutes is enough.

2. Find a quiet place.It’s possible to meditate under any conditions, but it’s much easier if you’re alone in quiet surroundings.

3. Find a comfortable position.Any position can work, provided you can maintain it without fidgeting. The full lotus position can be maintained for a very long period of time, but most beginners lack the flexibility to assume this position. Try various positions. Sitting up straight in a firm chair often works well.

4. Relax. Once you’ve found a comfortable position, breathe and relax. It doesn’t get much simpler than that. But simple isn’t the same as easy.

5. Focus on your breath. Maintain a focus on your breath. Feel the air moving in and out of your body. Why is meditation so focused on the breath? Because it’s

happening right now. It’s part of your experience in the present.

If you maintain awareness of your breathing, you can’t be thinking about anything else. And that’s exactly the goal: to stop your mind from thinking.

6. Continue to maintain focus on your breath. Invariably, your attention will wander. How long it takes to realize you’ve lost your focus will vary. With practice, it will only take a few seconds. At first, it may take several minutes!

When you do catch yourself thinking, simply notice it and bring your attention back to your breath. Avoid beating yourself up when your concentration is less than you’d like. Continue returning to your breath.

7. Apply the same idea to your daily life. While driving, keep your mind 100% on driving. While you’re washing the dishes, do the same. When your mind wanders, bring it back to your current activity. You’ll be amazed at the peacefulness it brings to your life.

8. Enjoy the benefits. When you’re talking to others, you’ll be able to clearly see the reality of the situation by being fully present. You’ll gain insights to people and situations that you never knew existed.

You can apply the same practice to the challenges in your life. You’ll see the truth and solutions will present themselves to you.

9. Understand what’s really happening.You’ve always been provided with insight, but your overactive mind, beliefs, opinions, and preconceptions have been getting in the way. Meditation clears away all of this noise and bias. You’re then able to experience true insight.

Allow yourself the advantage of all the insight available to you. Although it’s effective, meditating can take some time to master. You might not feel that you’re gaining any benefits at first. Keep at it. You’ll be well-rewarded for your efforts.

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The 2 or more hours your child spends everyday after school are some of the most crucial. The hours between getting out of school at 2:30 or 4:00 and when you get finished at
5 or so can be used productively or they can have a HUGE NEGATIVE EFFECT on YOUR CHILD…. Let’s explore.

Some kids go to baby sitters, some go home and “hang out” with their friends and some do whatever they want. Some are really, really board with what they’re doing after school!

Here’s the problem…

The hours after school add up fast and if you are not careful they can add up to a lot of wasted time!
TIME! Is the very essence of their existence

Think about…

A child will spend about 180 days in school per year. Everyday there will be at least two hours after school that need to be accounted for…

That’s 360 hours per year that a child is doing what????

Well, that’s up to their parents, but what they could be doing is…

• Developing Self-Discipline
• Learning How To Steer Clear of Peer Pressure
• Building Un-Stoppable Self Confidence
• Getting into Great Physical Shape
• Learning Self-Defense Skills That Could Save Their Lives
• Developing The “Mindset For Success”
• Learning How To Set And Achieve Goals
• Forging Quality Friendships With Other Like Minded Kids
• And Much More!

I don’t blame you. You’re thinking, “Come on… how can Doing Martial arts After School instill in my young one all of the character qualities they need for success?”

Well, I’m here to tell you in more ways than you can begin to imagine that our Private “Martial Arts After School Fitness & Success Program” will give your child a head start in life and help them do better in school!

My name is Ismael Rodriguez and I am the instructor at Niji No Hashi Dojo Martial Arts School in Cary,Morrisville, NC I’ve been a professional Martial-Arts Instructor for 40 years now! I owned a school in Brooklyn New York for 22 years before selling it and moving to Cary North Carolina I’ve been teaching here for 13 years. Living in New York I have been in many violence situations. True martial arts is not a sports and getting into an altercation really gets violent you have to meet violence with true self defense with no limitations with no rules.You’re better off walking away but when you trapped in a corner and you have no way out your children really have to learn to defend themselves against real violence.

Since 1981 I’ve been nurturing children just like yours after school with character building tools found only in martial-arts. No other after school activity can match up! That’s right I had a very big After School Martial arts Program at the school I previously owned. One year we had 32 children in the program!

Let me tell you though I am not interested in allowing that many kids in our new “ After-School Fitness & Success Program!”
I will only allow 15 Students in this exclusive, private, V.I.P. Program!

You’d like your child to build the self-esteem and self-confidence to have a more productive school year wouldn’t you? And a really, really big benefit to use is…

This program will free up your time so you
can get more accomplished while your child is being occupied after school!

So to Re-Cap….

Your child has the opportunity to be part of a very exclusive learning and character building program everyday after school!

You’ll have the piece of mind knowing that your child will be at the Dojo (school) everyday and will be developing the character qualities of a successful, well-rounded individual who is ready to take on life’s challenges!

Let me quickly sum up how the program works.
1. Your child will then get right into a focused True Martial arts lesson that is physically and mentally stimulating.

2. They will be able to earn their martial arts belts in do time belts and get all the benefits of True Martial arts training at a convenient time for you.

3. Your child will be getting valuable lessons in Success, Discipline, Respect, Self-Confidence and Self-Defense.

4. Your child will be part of an exclusive group of only 15 students.

5. Your child will have positive real life role models in a safe, clean, fun and structured environment.

6. You pick up your child from Niji No Hashi Dojo by 5:30PM or when you are finished work for the day.

Please DO NOT Delay! We will only be accepting 15 Students!

Give me a call right now at 919-380-7047 and I can give you more information on this exclusive program!

To Your Success,

Ismael Rodriguez
(instructor at (Niji No Hashi Dojo) Martial Arts School

PS-Really, Do not put this off, this program will fill up fast!

PPS-When you call we will arrange a time for you to come in and see the school. At this time we will work one on one with your child to make sure that they are right for the program! Call me at 919-380-7047, Call NOW!

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Methodologies for Living a Conscious Life

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Sporty conscious woman standing with arms crossed on black background

 Would you like to get more out of your life? It’s never past the point where it is possible to settle on another decision or opposite your life’s course. One approach to carry on with a more enhanced life is to be aware of what you’re doing at each moment. Along these lines, you stay associated with your conduct and sentiments.

Here’s an example situation: You’ve chosen to quit eating potato chips and chocolate. You make a vow to yourself to watch what you eat. Be that as it may, after two hours, you all of a sudden acknowledge you’re sitting before the TV, pack of potato chips close by.

Presently envision the same situation, yet this time you behave differently. You spend some time thinking about how to ensure you avoid potato chips and chocolate. You decide to take your junk food over to a friend’s house and leave it there. At dinner, you smile to yourself as you prepare to eat a salad and baked chicken because you plan to thoughtfully focus on eating healthy.

The second scenario demonstrates the concept of living a conscious life. Knowing what you want, choosing how you spend your time, and staying in touch with your feelings are indicators of a conscious life.

There are many techniques you can implement to help you purposely live the way you want to. When you live consciously, you’re no longer a victim of the wind, being blown about this way and that way by the circumstances of your life. You can create the life you desire with conscious living.

Try these ideas to get you started and inspire you on your journey:

  1. Create the life you want one step at a time. Rome wasn’t built in a day.
  • Spend some time exploring what you already love about your life. Also investigate what you’d like to change.
  • Then, think about how you can take deliberate steps to create the life you desire.
  1. Seek balance in your life. For example, if you disagree with someone, take time to consider the other person’s side of the argument.
  • Allow yourself to change your mind.
  1. Live in the present moment. You’ve most likely heard this suggestion before. But what does it really mean to live in the moment? Consider this example:
  • While you’re visiting your mother, think about her and enjoy your conversation and activities together. Avoid making your store list mentally or trying to recall what else you have to do today. Just stay in the present moment with your mother and focus on what the two of you are doing.
  1. Know yourself. Awareness of your likes and dislikes is important to conscious living.
  • Learn what’s important to you. Discover what makes you tick, what drives you, and what you find inspiring.
  • Self-understanding is an integral part of living life consciously because if you know your preferences and motivations, you can then create circumstances that will enable you to accomplish your goals.
  1. Live your own truth. As a teenager, you might have gravitated toward peers who didn’t judge you, which made you feel more comfortable. Perhaps, in actuality, you didn’t have all that much in common with them. As an adult, you can now stay more true to your own beliefs.
  • When you live your truth, you stay faithful to what’s genuinely important to you.
  1. Learn to let go of negativity and situations you can’t control.
  • Conserve your emotional energy for what you actually can change: yourself and your own life. Now that’s conscious living!
  1. Take action. Become interested and involved in the goals you’ve set. Put effort into achieving those objectives and you’ll be well on the road to living consciously.

Altering how you live your life can be an ongoing challenge. Selecting just one of the above ideas and putting it into practice will help you begin your journey toward conscious living. Living life consciously will bring you the healthier, more joyful existence that you deserve.

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College Preparation Tips to Give Your High School Senior

Successful people come from all backgrounds and levels of education

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Going to college can be a stressful time for parents and their children. It’s a time of great change, with a lot of laughs and tears. Even though your senior may be ready to go to college, it’s still going to be a big adjustment. The more prepared for college they are, the better their chances of succeeding and staying happy during their time away at school.

You’ll want to give your child the best information and support you can. Every child is different, but there are some things that every college-bound senior should know.

Remember the Importance of More Than “Book-Learning”

College is about new experiences and not all of them take place in the classroom. In order to help your high school senior be as prepared for college as possible, do all you can to ensure they’re ready for life inside and outside of the classroom.

  1. Remind them that their relationships will change, no matter who they’re with.
  2. Repeat that they have your support – no matter what direction life takes.
  3. Equip them with knowledge about alcohol, drugs, sex, and other serious matters.
  4. Provide only an agreed-upon sum of money, and only when necessary.
  5. Discuss the future with real world examples, so they’re focused on success.

There is so much to a college experience today, and it’ll be different for each person. Some of that is due to differences in personality, but some of it also depends on how far away from home the college is. If a student is living at home, his college experience may be far different than a student who is hundreds or even thousands of miles away from his parents.

The influence you have over your child throughout the senior year in high school will change when they go off to college. Understand that even the best parenting doesn’t always save a child from challenges. You can prepare your child for college, but then it’s up to them.

The Value of Education in Today’s World

Education is becoming more and more valuable with each passing year. Technology is changing the way things are done and those with higher education are generally the ones who see the most success. It can be hard to get a high school senior to take the future seriously, but imparting good information is vital.

When you see your senior off to college, remember that there will be somewhat of a trial and error style of learning, at least at first. Some people are ready for college right out of high school, and some aren’t. If your child isn’t ready and doesn’t perform well, don’t despair. He can attend college at a later date and do just fine.

In short, don’t assume that your child will perform exactly the way you expect; all you can do is give the best information and support you have to offer. Keep in mind that your young adult is an individual and will have to find his or her own way. The life experienced in college and beyond is up to them!

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The martial arts offer a very valuable journey of self-discovery

Questions That Most Beginners Of The Martial Arts Experience

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The hand to hand martial arts offer an extremely profitable excursion of self-revelation. There are different stages inside this voyage the distance from apprentice to black belt and beyond. At every phase there are distinctive challenges and obstacles.

1.Is this truly for me?

This is an unavoidable issue at the beginner stage and furthermore at the transitional stage. Indeed this inquiry should be replied on various diverse events as far as possible up to black belt, and maybe even then too!

Self-uncertainty is not a terrible thing, it is a route for you to step once again from you’re preparing and legitimately inquire as to whether Martial Arts is still for you. No one but you can answer this inquiry however to ensure that you keep on giving Martial Arts a chance I suggest that you concentrate on three things: why did you get started in the first place; what has Martial Arts accomplished for you so far; and what do you still hope to get out of your Martial Arts practice?

If regardless you feel that Martial Arts has a considerable measure to offer you then your response to address

#1 should be a resounding yes!

2.Do I have the potential to become a black belt?

Yes! Yes! Yes! Everyone has the potential to do anything they want. The question you ought to ask yourself is, will I permit myself to achieve my capability of turning into a black belt?

3.Can Martial Arts truly help me to defend myself? Yes, and no.

Yes, and no. After three months of training the odds are that you won’t have the capacity to truly the defense yourself unless you are taking a specific and intensive self-defense course that is exclusively centered around real street violence. You are likely taking a standard combative technique street survival in which case you ought to defend yourself with real street violence the world is changing you need to be well prepared in which case you should expect to gradually develop self-defense skills over a significantly longer period of time. Steadily create self-protection abilities over a fundamentally more timeframe. On the off chance that your essential objective is self-protection then take a course that deals with that specifically and also read and learn about basic awareness tactics for going about your everyday life.

4.Is all of this talk about ethics and spiritual values really true?

At first it appears as though punching and kicking don’t generally coordinate the estimations of order and respect and I can’t blame you for thinking that especially after grabbing up your daily newspaper and reading about the most recent robbing, assault or neighborhood school brutality.

However the truth is that mindfulness prompts a more prominent energy about truth in your life and what it intends to you particularly.

By rehearsing combative technique you find out about your own particular qualities and shortcomings and through hard physical preparing you figure out how to get through past confinements and take yourself to the following level in your development and self-discovery.

This ordinarily interprets into higher moral and spiritual values, and profound qualities, which in turn lead to greater self-discipline and respect, self-control and regard for our fellow citizens. I believe that all of this is true but it obviously takes time, exertion and duty to make any sort of enduring behavioral change.

5.Will I ever get these strategies and techniques drills right?

The more you practice, the more likely you are to get the methods of the techniques and drills right.
Your definitive achievement in Martial Arts is in proportion to your effort, focus and persistence and consistencies of it. The more that you concentrate on the way that you are not getting the drills right, the more you will get to be disappointed. Change your center, keep it positive, and all of a sudden you will get the techniques right.

6. Doesnít everybody get hurt in sparring?

Everybody gets minor bumps and bruises in sparring even if when are wearing protective gear.

This is part of martial arts training. Don’t believe anybody who tells you differently.

In any case, very few practitioners experience serious injuries while training at a reputable school that takes every precaution necessary for the safety of its members.

The use of safety gear is one reason for this, but a more important reason is the care and knowledge of a competent instructor who knows how to gradually introduce sparring drills that are both age-appropriate and rank-specific.

A competent and caring instructor is more important than any piece of safety gear.

These are a portion of the regular questions in the early phases of training technique preparing and there are clearly many more.

In the event that you require more, please make sure to visit www.nijinohashidojo.com Martial Arts. web page.

Good fortunes and all the best on your trip in Martial Arts.

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Two Questions That Give You All the Perspective You Need


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It’s easy to get bogged down with all the available self-help information. You might be surprised at how much you can benefit from asking yourself just a couple of questions! Your answers will help you determine if you’re on track to reaching your goals and enable you to make an action plan that will get you there in record time.

Ask yourself these two questions

  1. “If an invisible person followed you around all day, what would they see?” Would they see you wasting a lot of time? Would they see you working at your goals? Would they see someone that is just going through the motions?
  • Our lives are largely the result of the actions that we take each day. Are you taking actions that move you forward to the future you desire or are you engaged in time-wasting, worthless activity?
  • What would that invisible person logically conclude about you, your life, and your future?
  1. “If you lived that average day, every day, for the next 5 years, what is the logical outcome?” So if you kept living your average day over and over, where is your life likely to end up? Now compare that logical conclusion with the life you’d like to have. How close are they?
  • Are you likely to end up where you want to be financially? Are you currently taking consistent action to have the financial life you desire?
  • Are you likely to have the body that you want? Are you eating nutritiously and exercising regularly? Or are you waiting to start tomorrow, or Monday, or the first of the month, or the first of the year? Getting the body you want will take a certain number of days, so you might as well start today.
  • Are you likely to be enjoying the type of relationships you desire? If you want to meet your dream wife, how many new women have you spoken to in the last week? How many have you asked out?
  • Are you likely to be advancing in the career you seek? For example, based on your performance over the last year, do you think it’s probable that you’ll get that plant manager position anytime soon? Are you any closer to having that small business running profitably?

Now you can make some reasonable plans and create some good habits. What do you need to do on a consistent basis to achieve the life you hope for? If you want to lose 10 inches off your waist and weigh 75 lbs less, then your daily actions need to reflect that.

People largely fail to end up where they wish to be for two reasons:

They have no idea where they’re going. You can’t get there if you don’t know the destination. If you don’t have a plan, you must live by default, sitting around until something goes wrong and then spending your energy fixing the issue. Alternatively, if you spend your energy driving towards something, you’ll eventually get there.

  1. They don’t do the things each day that will create the life they want. In spite of what many gurus seem to claim, you can’t wish your way to success. Success is the result of making positive decisions and taking actions that reflect those decisions.

Ask yourself the two questions above. You might be shocked when you really look at your average day and realize where you’re likely to end up as a result of doing those same things every day. It doesn’t take a lot to be very successful, but it does take consistency.

For instance, imagine if you did 1 pushup every day this week and added 1 pushup a week. In 5 years you would be doing 250 pushups a day and you would never struggle for a minute.

In the same way, establishing daily habits that move you forward toward achieving your goals will result in your success. So which habit will you start today?


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