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Always use diligence when shopping

Buyer Beware


It’s important to be aware of these new risks and know how to protect yourself if you become a target of credit card fraud, identity theft, scams, or harassment from debt collectors. Never make purchases or access your accounts via public Wi- Fi networks. It is important to be aware of the signs of possible identity theft so you can catch the crime early on and take action to stop any further damage.

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probably you have more courage than you think.

 Just like the lion in the Wizard of Oz, you probably have more courage than you think. While you may find it difficult to ask a stranger to stop talking during a movie, you’d rise to the occasion if a wicked witch threatened you and your friends.

In real life, you could wait for a crisis that will bring out the lion in you or you can start now to practice habits that will build up your courage. Try these 3 steps that will help you to overcome the doubts and fears that hold you back from fulfilling your dreams.

Face Your Fears:

1. Reframe the situation. The words you choose to describe an event can have a profound effect on how you feel about it. View challenges as opportunities and try to avoid exaggerating negative consequences. When you’re stuck in a long line, think of it as a chance to catch up on reading the news.

2. Evaluate inaction. It’s natural to want to run away from the things that scare you, but avoidance comes at a high cost. You might lose a friend because you sidestep a sensitive conversation where you could work out your differences.

3. Manage stress. Maybe you’re not even sure about the source of your fears. Dealing with daily stress reduces your anxiety levels, so find relaxation practices that work for you such as meditation or listening to music.

4. Seek support. Asking for help can be a sign of courage. Reach out to loved ones or a professional counselor if you need help.

5. Start small. Major undertakings become less overwhelming when you break them down into more manageable parts. Work your way up to asking your boss for a raise by being more assertive in situations where you have less at stake.

Strengthen Your Purpose:

1. Dream big. Courage expands your vision. Imagine what you would do if you could set aside any limiting beliefs. Find something that you value more than your pride or comfort.

2. Clarify your goals. To get tangible results, it’s crucial to translate your vision into a practical plan of action. Identify exactly what you’re going to do.

3. Create a timeline. You’re more likely to stay on track if you decide what actions you will complete today or by the end of the month. Deadlines increase accountability.

4. Keep a journal. Put your plan into writing and post it someplace where you can see it. That way it will stay fresh in your mind.

Build up Your Confidence:

1. Think positive. Focus on what you have to gain. Use your self-talk to give yourself reassurance and encouragement. Identify areas where you want to make changes, and be willing to laugh at yourself.

2. Get organized. Cleaning up your surroundings can make you feel more relaxed. Clear off your desk each evening and cut down on clutter at home.

3. Come prepared. Doing your homework helps you to place more trust in your abilities. Research a company before going on a job interview or talk with a carpenter before tackling a home improvement project.

4. Stay fit. Caring for your health and wellbeing is one way to value yourself. Eat a balanced diet, exercise regularly, and get adequate sleep and rest.

5. List your accomplishments. Boost your morale by reviewing your track record. Your past victories prove that you can succeed at future tasks.

6. Stretch your skills. You’ll have more confidence in your abilities when you consistently work at increasing your competence. Take business courses online or study a foreign language.

Train yourself to be brave. Learn to master your fears and persist through challenges. Enjoying a more meaningful life is the ultimate reward of building up your courage.

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The Importance Of Role Modeling

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The-Role-Model-Guidebook Role modeling is paradoxical. If you surround yourself with positive role models, you’ll likely become an effective role model for your kids, co- workers, or someone else.

The importance of role modeling

“When a young person, even a gifted one, grows up without proximate living examples of what she may aspire to become–whether lawyer, scientist, artist, or leader in any realm–her goal remains abstract. Such models as appear in books or on the news, however inspiring or revered, are ultimately too remote to be real,let alone influential. But a role model in the flesh provides more than inspiration; his orher very existence is confirmation of possibilities one may have every reason to doubt, saying, ‘Yes, someone like me can do this.’”

~ Sonia Sotomayor

Sonia Maria Sotomayor is an Associate Justice of the Supreme Court of the United States, serving since August 2009

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Books Of The Month Of May

Cultivate your mind. Boredom is something we allow and hold control over.

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Bring the Joy of Reading Books Back Into Your Life Sculpture the mind the same way you want to sculpture your body.

It’s almost the same as sculpturing rock into statue for it would take at lease 16 months
So starts sculpturing your mind read
















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I had to stop the video 3 times just to hold myself and not cry! He is so right! We are selfish and that’s why we quit! And once we quit, the second time it will be easier and third time it will become our habit. But one day it all will come back to hit us back! And it will hurt more than we have continued the first time although it was hard!

What I learned today:
1. Be patient – Engage in consistent action
2. Do extra drills
3. People quit because they don’t have pride in what they do
4. People stop because they’re selfish and it’s just about them
5. You need a driving force for what you do that’s bigger than you
6. Quote: “Son, whatever you start, you make sure you finish.”
7. Don’t let quitting become a habit
8. Life is a blessing and life is a gift.
Thanks Inky =)

Keep diary and bullets in it and review them regularly. They’re like a mini shot in the arm and it will keep you moving in the right direction =)

If you try to fire others please be sure you credit Inky Johnson as the original source =)



Please watch part two


The primary issue keeping you from following through

Why is Change so Challenging?



Over 80% of New Year’s resolutions are abandoned within a week. If change were easy, we’d all be wealthy, fit, and happy. It’s frustrating when you know what you want to do, but you can’t get yourself to do it consistently. If the new behavior would obviously be of benefit, why isn’t that change easy to make?

Change is challenging for several reasons:

  1. Habits are strong and pervasive. The average person has far more habits than they realize. Each morning, you wake up and follow the same routine. You take the same path to work. You think the same thoughts as you did the day before. Much of your day and night is a repeat of the last 500.
  • When you feel bored, you soothe yourself in the same 2-3 ways each time. You only eat a few foods regularly. You talk to the same people.
  • Habits avoid thinking. They’re done automatically. Anything that minimizes thinking seems to be your brain’s preference. The fewer decisions, the better.
  • To change, you must be certain that change is in your best interest. Otherwise, your habits will always win.
  1. Change is hard because it’s uncomfortable. You already know how to lose 25 pounds or how to find a better job. But the thought of taking the actions necessary to accomplish those goals creates discomfort.
  2. What you’re doing is already working, sort of. Your brain is preoccupied with your survival. Our brains are programmed to resist change, because what you’re doing is allowing you to live. Any change could potentially lead to death. You might be unhappy today, but you’re still alive!
  • Most of us prefer misery than facing uncertainty.
  1. You’ve tried to change in the past and failed. You’re no dummy. If you’ve tried to change several times and failed, part of you says, “Obviously, I can’t change. What’s the use in trying?”

It isn’t easy to change, but change is possible. The primary issue keeping you from following through on your plan to change is attempting to change too much, too soon. Smaller changes are easier to accomplish and to maintain.

How You Can Chang

Change is possible with an effective approach:

  1. Be prepared to change. Expect that change will be challenging. Your odds of success improve if you’re prepared. Have a plan.
  2. Start small. To minimize the discomfort that change creates, only change a little each week. Meditating for two minutes each day is easier than starting with 60 minutes. The key is to get in the habit of doing the new behavior each day.
  3. Have patience. It can take months to make a change permanent. It’s often quoted that a new habit requires 30 days to instill. That’s not true. Studies show that it can take anywhere from a few weeks to several months, depending on the habit and the person.
  4. Be willing to change yourself and face the consequences. Changing yourself is scary, because you don’t know what the results will be. Accept that your life will change in some way. Discomfort isn’t always a bad thing.
  5. Expect to relapse. Falling off the wagon is to be expected. Attempt to enhance your approach and keep going. Aim for 90% compliance. That’s all you need. Perfection is an illusion that will only serve to destroy your confidence.

Change requires patience with yourself. Understand why it’s so challenging to change and choose to make changes slowly and incrementally. Imagine how much you could change over a few years if you changed just a tiny amount each week. The results would be staggering! How much have you changed over the last few years? Give slow change a chance.


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Niji No Hashi Dojo Martial Arts in Cary, Morrisville, North Carolina


The 2 or more hours your child spends everyday after school are some of the most crucial. The hours between getting out of school at 2:30 or 4:00 and when you get finished at
5 or so can be used productively or they can have a HUGE NEGATIVE EFFECT on YOUR CHILD…. Let’s explore.

Some kids go to baby sitters, some go home and “hang out” with their friends and some do whatever they want. Some are really, really board with what they’re doing after school!

Here’s the problem…

The hours after school add up fast and if you are not careful they can add up to a lot of wasted time!
TIME! Is the very essence of their existence

Think about…

A child will spend about 180 days in school per year. Everyday there will be at least two hours after school that need to be accounted for…

That’s 360 hours per year that a child is doing what????

Well, that’s up to their parents, but what they could be doing is…

• Developing Self-Discipline
• Learning How To Steer Clear of Peer Pressure
• Building Un-Stoppable Self Confidence
• Getting into Great Physical Shape
• Learning Self-Defense Skills That Could Save Their Lives
• Developing The “Mindset For Success”
• Learning How To Set And Achieve Goals
• Forging Quality Friendships With Other Like Minded Kids
• And Much More!

I don’t blame you. You’re thinking, “Come on… how can Doing Martial arts After School instill in my young one all of the character qualities they need for success?”

Well, I’m here to tell you in more ways than you can begin to imagine that our Private “Martial Arts After School Fitness & Success Program” will give your child a head start in life and help them do better in school!

My name is Ismael Rodriguez and I am the instructor at Niji No Hashi Dojo Martial Arts School in Cary,Morrisville, NC I’ve been a professional Martial-Arts Instructor for 40 years now! I owned a school in Brooklyn New York for 22 years before selling it and moving to Cary North Carolina I’ve been teaching here for 13 years. Living in New York I have been in many violence situations. True martial arts is not a sports and getting into an altercation really gets violent you have to meet violence with true self defense with no limitations with no rules.You’re better off walking away but when you trapped in a corner and you have no way out your children really have to learn to defend themselves against real violence.

Since 1981 I’ve been nurturing children just like yours after school with character building tools found only in martial-arts. No other after school activity can match up! That’s right I had a very big After School Martial arts Program at the school I previously owned. One year we had 32 children in the program!

Let me tell you though I am not interested in allowing that many kids in our new “ After-School Fitness & Success Program!”
I will only allow 15 Students in this exclusive, private, V.I.P. Program!

You’d like your child to build the self-esteem and self-confidence to have a more productive school year wouldn’t you? And a really, really big benefit to use is…

This program will free up your time so you
can get more accomplished while your child is being occupied after school!

So to Re-Cap….

Your child has the opportunity to be part of a very exclusive learning and character building program everyday after school!

You’ll have the piece of mind knowing that your child will be at the Dojo (school) everyday and will be developing the character qualities of a successful, well-rounded individual who is ready to take on life’s challenges!

Let me quickly sum up how the program works.
1. Your child will then get right into a focused True Martial arts lesson that is physically and mentally stimulating.

2. They will be able to earn their martial arts belts in do time belts and get all the benefits of True Martial arts training at a convenient time for you.

3. Your child will be getting valuable lessons in Success, Discipline, Respect, Self-Confidence and Self-Defense.

4. Your child will be part of an exclusive group of only 15 students.

5. Your child will have positive real life role models in a safe, clean, fun and structured environment.

6. You pick up your child from Niji No Hashi Dojo by 5:30PM or when you are finished work for the day.

Please DO NOT Delay! We will only be accepting 15 Students!

Give me a call right now at 919-380-7047 and I can give you more information on this exclusive program!

To Your Success,

Ismael Rodriguez
(instructor at (Niji No Hashi Dojo) Martial Arts School

PS-Really, Do not put this off, this program will fill up fast!

PPS-When you call we will arrange a time for you to come in and see the school. At this time we will work one on one with your child to make sure that they are right for the program! Call me at 919-380-7047, Call NOW!

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Cohesion and cooperation and Principles You Preach

Walk the Talk – Practicing the Principles You Preach

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How often have you run into a leader who’s been successful at guiding others by saying one thing and then doing something different? Not very often, right? That’s simply because it doesn’t work!

It’s highly likely that principles taught without the right examples being put into practice will eventually fall by the wayside.

Especially if you’re in a position of authority, it is of utmost importance to lead by example if you expect to gain compliance.

Leading by example will ensure these benefits:

  1. Support of the principles based on results. For example, if you’re teaching honesty, when people see for themselves that you gain the trust of others by being honest, they will likely see the benefits of being honest themselves.
  1. Full understanding of the principles. Just imparting principles to others isn’t always enough. In fact, the majority of people may have a completely different understanding of what’s expected of them.
  1. Cohesion and cooperation. This is particularly true whenever team effort is required. When everybody is on the same page, processes, departments and families run more cohesively.
  1. When others can see that you are fully complying with the principles you teach, you’ll ultimately gain their respect.

Disastrous Results of Not Practicing What You Preach

So what happens when you try to teach certain life principles but allow your actions to dictate otherwise?

You’re bound to run into any or all of the following situations:

  • Those you expect compliance from will very soon grow to resent you, especially if the principles you’re teaching are a challenge for them to perform.
  • You may end up with a negative reputation as an ineffective leader or teacher as you lose sight of the very actions you teach.
  • Cases of rebellion will continue to grow as more and more people feel they’re being dictated to instead of led.

How to Start Leading By Example

It’s very easy to outline your expectations; it’s the simplest part of the equation. And that’s a start, because at least you know what the principles are. As they say, “Knowing is half the battle” but in this case, it’s the smaller half!

It may take a lot of effort to really walk the talk and practice the behaviors that you want others to emulate. However, you can get started practicing this positive principle on a daily basis with only a small effort:

Start small and stick to your immediate circle of influence.

  • Give yourself the opportunity to impart morals and good belief systems on your immediate family and close friends.
  • Tackle each principle one at a time.
  • Work hard at allowing it to become an integral part of your everyday life.

Once you’ve mastered one, move on to something else. However, it’s important to be able to give testimony to the fact that there are actually greater benefits to adhering to that particular principle than not adhering. There is an element of fulfillment when you can show others just what kind of actions, thoughts and behaviors contribute to a better, more wholesome outcome.

Walking the talk is a lifelong journey. There may be times that you’ll fall below your own expectations and the principles you aspire to uphold. However, what’s important is that you recognize it and take the necessary steps to get back on track!

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The martial arts offer a very valuable journey of self-discovery

Questions That Most Beginners Of The Martial Arts Experience

Niji No Hashi-Dojo-Martial Arts-Cary-Morrisville-North Carolina-If you train Remember.

The hand to hand martial arts offer an extremely profitable excursion of self-revelation. There are different stages inside this voyage the distance from apprentice to black belt and beyond. At every phase there are distinctive challenges and obstacles.

1.Is this truly for me?

This is an unavoidable issue at the beginner stage and furthermore at the transitional stage. Indeed this inquiry should be replied on various diverse events as far as possible up to black belt, and maybe even then too!

Self-uncertainty is not a terrible thing, it is a route for you to step once again from you’re preparing and legitimately inquire as to whether Martial Arts is still for you. No one but you can answer this inquiry however to ensure that you keep on giving Martial Arts a chance I suggest that you concentrate on three things: why did you get started in the first place; what has Martial Arts accomplished for you so far; and what do you still hope to get out of your Martial Arts practice?

If regardless you feel that Martial Arts has a considerable measure to offer you then your response to address

#1 should be a resounding yes!

2.Do I have the potential to become a black belt?

Yes! Yes! Yes! Everyone has the potential to do anything they want. The question you ought to ask yourself is, will I permit myself to achieve my capability of turning into a black belt?

3.Can Martial Arts truly help me to defend myself? Yes, and no.

Yes, and no. After three months of training the odds are that you won’t have the capacity to truly the defense yourself unless you are taking a specific and intensive self-defense course that is exclusively centered around real street violence. You are likely taking a standard combative technique street survival in which case you ought to defend yourself with real street violence the world is changing you need to be well prepared in which case you should expect to gradually develop self-defense skills over a significantly longer period of time. Steadily create self-protection abilities over a fundamentally more timeframe. On the off chance that your essential objective is self-protection then take a course that deals with that specifically and also read and learn about basic awareness tactics for going about your everyday life.

4.Is all of this talk about ethics and spiritual values really true?

At first it appears as though punching and kicking don’t generally coordinate the estimations of order and respect and I can’t blame you for thinking that especially after grabbing up your daily newspaper and reading about the most recent robbing, assault or neighborhood school brutality.

However the truth is that mindfulness prompts a more prominent energy about truth in your life and what it intends to you particularly.

By rehearsing combative technique you find out about your own particular qualities and shortcomings and through hard physical preparing you figure out how to get through past confinements and take yourself to the following level in your development and self-discovery.

This ordinarily interprets into higher moral and spiritual values, and profound qualities, which in turn lead to greater self-discipline and respect, self-control and regard for our fellow citizens. I believe that all of this is true but it obviously takes time, exertion and duty to make any sort of enduring behavioral change.

5.Will I ever get these strategies and techniques drills right?

The more you practice, the more likely you are to get the methods of the techniques and drills right.
Your definitive achievement in Martial Arts is in proportion to your effort, focus and persistence and consistencies of it. The more that you concentrate on the way that you are not getting the drills right, the more you will get to be disappointed. Change your center, keep it positive, and all of a sudden you will get the techniques right.

6. Doesnít everybody get hurt in sparring?

Everybody gets minor bumps and bruises in sparring even if when are wearing protective gear.

This is part of martial arts training. Don’t believe anybody who tells you differently.

In any case, very few practitioners experience serious injuries while training at a reputable school that takes every precaution necessary for the safety of its members.

The use of safety gear is one reason for this, but a more important reason is the care and knowledge of a competent instructor who knows how to gradually introduce sparring drills that are both age-appropriate and rank-specific.

A competent and caring instructor is more important than any piece of safety gear.

These are a portion of the regular questions in the early phases of training technique preparing and there are clearly many more.

In the event that you require more, please make sure to visit www.nijinohashidojo.com Martial Arts. web page.

Good fortunes and all the best on your trip in Martial Arts.

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Two Questions That Give You All the Perspective You Need


Niji No Hashi-Dojo-Martial Arts-Cary-Morrisville-North Carolina-PERSPECTIVE YOU NEED

It’s easy to get bogged down with all the available self-help information. You might be surprised at how much you can benefit from asking yourself just a couple of questions! Your answers will help you determine if you’re on track to reaching your goals and enable you to make an action plan that will get you there in record time.

Ask yourself these two questions

  1. “If an invisible person followed you around all day, what would they see?” Would they see you wasting a lot of time? Would they see you working at your goals? Would they see someone that is just going through the motions?
  • Our lives are largely the result of the actions that we take each day. Are you taking actions that move you forward to the future you desire or are you engaged in time-wasting, worthless activity?
  • What would that invisible person logically conclude about you, your life, and your future?
  1. “If you lived that average day, every day, for the next 5 years, what is the logical outcome?” So if you kept living your average day over and over, where is your life likely to end up? Now compare that logical conclusion with the life you’d like to have. How close are they?
  • Are you likely to end up where you want to be financially? Are you currently taking consistent action to have the financial life you desire?
  • Are you likely to have the body that you want? Are you eating nutritiously and exercising regularly? Or are you waiting to start tomorrow, or Monday, or the first of the month, or the first of the year? Getting the body you want will take a certain number of days, so you might as well start today.
  • Are you likely to be enjoying the type of relationships you desire? If you want to meet your dream wife, how many new women have you spoken to in the last week? How many have you asked out?
  • Are you likely to be advancing in the career you seek? For example, based on your performance over the last year, do you think it’s probable that you’ll get that plant manager position anytime soon? Are you any closer to having that small business running profitably?

Now you can make some reasonable plans and create some good habits. What do you need to do on a consistent basis to achieve the life you hope for? If you want to lose 10 inches off your waist and weigh 75 lbs less, then your daily actions need to reflect that.

People largely fail to end up where they wish to be for two reasons:

They have no idea where they’re going. You can’t get there if you don’t know the destination. If you don’t have a plan, you must live by default, sitting around until something goes wrong and then spending your energy fixing the issue. Alternatively, if you spend your energy driving towards something, you’ll eventually get there.

  1. They don’t do the things each day that will create the life they want. In spite of what many gurus seem to claim, you can’t wish your way to success. Success is the result of making positive decisions and taking actions that reflect those decisions.

Ask yourself the two questions above. You might be shocked when you really look at your average day and realize where you’re likely to end up as a result of doing those same things every day. It doesn’t take a lot to be very successful, but it does take consistency.

For instance, imagine if you did 1 pushup every day this week and added 1 pushup a week. In 5 years you would be doing 250 pushups a day and you would never struggle for a minute.

In the same way, establishing daily habits that move you forward toward achieving your goals will result in your success. So which habit will you start today?


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