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Niji No Hashi Dojo Martial arts School

Niji No Hashi Dojo Martial Arts in Cary, Morrisville, North Carolina


The 2 or more hours your child spends everyday after school are some of the most crucial. The hours between getting out of school at 2:30 or 4:00 and when you get finished at
5 or so can be used productively or they can have a HUGE NEGATIVE EFFECT on YOUR CHILD…. Let’s explore.

Some kids go to baby sitters, some go home and “hang out” with their friends and some do whatever they want. Some are really, really board with what they’re doing after school!

Here’s the problem…

The hours after school add up fast and if you are not careful they can add up to a lot of wasted time!
TIME! Is the very essence of their existence

Think about…

A child will spend about 180 days in school per year. Everyday there will be at least two hours after school that need to be accounted for…

That’s 360 hours per year that a child is doing what????

Well, that’s up to their parents, but what they could be doing is…

• Developing Self-Discipline
• Learning How To Steer Clear of Peer Pressure
• Building Un-Stoppable Self Confidence
• Getting into Great Physical Shape
• Learning Self-Defense Skills That Could Save Their Lives
• Developing The “Mindset For Success”
• Learning How To Set And Achieve Goals
• Forging Quality Friendships With Other Like Minded Kids
• And Much More!

I don’t blame you. You’re thinking, “Come on… how can Doing Martial arts After School instill in my young one all of the character qualities they need for success?”

Well, I’m here to tell you in more ways than you can begin to imagine that our Private “Martial Arts After School Fitness & Success Program” will give your child a head start in life and help them do better in school!

My name is Ismael Rodriguez and I am the instructor at Niji No Hashi Dojo Martial Arts School in Cary,Morrisville, NC I’ve been a professional Martial-Arts Instructor for 40 years now! I owned a school in Brooklyn New York for 22 years before selling it and moving to Cary North Carolina I’ve been teaching here for 13 years. Living in New York I have been in many violence situations. True martial arts is not a sports and getting into an altercation really gets violent you have to meet violence with true self defense with no limitations with no rules.You’re better off walking away but when you trapped in a corner and you have no way out your children really have to learn to defend themselves against real violence.

Since 1981 I’ve been nurturing children just like yours after school with character building tools found only in martial-arts. No other after school activity can match up! That’s right I had a very big After School Martial arts Program at the school I previously owned. One year we had 32 children in the program!

Let me tell you though I am not interested in allowing that many kids in our new “ After-School Fitness & Success Program!”
I will only allow 15 Students in this exclusive, private, V.I.P. Program!

You’d like your child to build the self-esteem and self-confidence to have a more productive school year wouldn’t you? And a really, really big benefit to use is…

This program will free up your time so you
can get more accomplished while your child is being occupied after school!

So to Re-Cap….

Your child has the opportunity to be part of a very exclusive learning and character building program everyday after school!

You’ll have the piece of mind knowing that your child will be at the Dojo (school) everyday and will be developing the character qualities of a successful, well-rounded individual who is ready to take on life’s challenges!

Let me quickly sum up how the program works.
1. Your child will then get right into a focused True Martial arts lesson that is physically and mentally stimulating.

2. They will be able to earn their martial arts belts in do time belts and get all the benefits of True Martial arts training at a convenient time for you.

3. Your child will be getting valuable lessons in Success, Discipline, Respect, Self-Confidence and Self-Defense.

4. Your child will be part of an exclusive group of only 15 students.

5. Your child will have positive real life role models in a safe, clean, fun and structured environment.

6. You pick up your child from Niji No Hashi Dojo by 5:30PM or when you are finished work for the day.

Please DO NOT Delay! We will only be accepting 15 Students!

Give me a call right now at 919-380-7047 and I can give you more information on this exclusive program!

To Your Success,

Ismael Rodriguez
(instructor at (Niji No Hashi Dojo) Martial Arts School

PS-Really, Do not put this off, this program will fill up fast!

PPS-When you call we will arrange a time for you to come in and see the school. At this time we will work one on one with your child to make sure that they are right for the program! Call me at 919-380-7047, Call NOW!

PPS-To see what other parents say about our program visit

Martial Arts Habits That Improve Focused

Stay focused and NEVER GIVE UP and live your lifeNijiNoHashiDojo, Martial-Arts, Cary, Morrisville, NC, Ninja, Self-Defense-FOCUSED-WISDOM

Unless you’re a Buddhist monk, you encounter distractions from time to time that minimize your effectiveness in getting your work done.

The internet is especially disrupting with email, messages, status updates, and more. But distractions also include co-workers, family, and our own wandering minds. It seems that we dawdle our lives away five minutes at a time.

The big question is how to defeat this tendency. How can you make use of the Internet constructively without falling victim to its distractive qualities?

Try turning these strategies into daily habits that help you become more efficient and effective:

1. Use time limits. When we set a time limit, we improve our ability to focus. It almost becomes a game of ‘beat the clock’. Ideally, you should use a timer and limit your work periods to around 25 or 55 minutes – with a 5-10 minute break in between tasks. If a task is going to take longer than 55 minutes, break it down into smaller chunks.

• Having a time limit also forces you to do the most important parts of any work. If you only have an hour, you’re going to have to decide what’s most important. This is much better than deciding to simply work on something until it’s done. Decide how long it should take, and then set the timer.
• If you have any sort of attention challenge, using a timer can increase your ability to keep your mind on the task at hand. The time flies by, and you’ll get more done. You’re likely to even find it relaxing, since you’ll be focused on what you’re doing instead of thinking about 20 other things.
Research has shown that the most productive schedule for most people is:

o 50 minutes of work
o 10 minute break
o 50 more minutes of work
o 30 minute break (You might not be able to get away with a 30-minute break at work, but it’s a good time to get up, walk around, and get a drink.) Repeat

Time your breaks. If you decide to check your email or do one of those other tasks that seem to magically go from 5 minutes to 30 minutes or more, using a timer will serve as a reminder. It will also force you to only check on the most important things.

2. Close everything that can be closed. Everything on your computer that isn’t necessary for the task at hand should be closed down. If you don’t need the internet, shut it off. That includes all your email, notifications, games, and blogs. Close your door and unplug the phone, if possible.

• Nothing is going anywhere – it will all still be there when you’re done. One of the keys to being more effective is eliminating the things that make us less effective.

3. Insert a pause, as needed. When you first implement these habits, there will be times that you will have an incredible urge to check your email, Facebook, or Twitter.

• Before you succumb to the urge, take 10 seconds and pause. Take a long, deep breath and ask yourself if you really want to waste your time on something that is largely meaningless, or if you’d rather accomplish something worthwhile.
The ability to focus has been largely lost for many of us. However, these easy habits, which anyone can do, can go a long way toward improving your focus and effectiveness at any task.

It’s likely to be challenging at first, but you can do it. You can get more done, in less time, by learning to improve your focus and avoiding the things that waste your precious time.

Put these three habits into play starting today. You’ll be impressed by how much more you can get done!

NijiNoHashi Dojo Martial Arts, Cary, Morrisville, NC

Start sculpturing your mind read


Bring the Joy of Reading Books Back Into Your Life

12 books for February

Sculpture the mind the same way you want to sculpture your body.

It’s almost the same, as sculpturing rock into statue for it would take at lease 16 months

So starts sculpturing your mind read

The best book for the month is A BRIEF HISTORY OF TIME BY STEPHEN HAWKING

At the very bottom there is a free PDF BY STEPHEN HAWKING

Reading expands your mind and brings you joy.

Books should surround you. They are a special type of friend for you. Be comforted and relaxed when you read each day. Reading is more than a hobby. It is an integral element of my daily life.

Reading provides an escape from a tough day and introduces me to great adventures.

I love the idea that I can learn something new when I open a book. Whether it is a fictional story or a true account of someone’s life, great lessons lie within the pages. I read to expand my mind and find a peaceful moment of joy during the day.

To me, a day without reading is like a day without breathing. I am compelled to move forward in whatever book I am reading. The quiet contentment I gain from reading is unmatched by anything else I do each day.

Stories excite, enlighten, and enthrall me. Visualizing the scenes from a book allows me to tap into my creative side.

Today, I plan to read for at least one hour. Diving into an interesting story educates me and brings joy into my life. Each book seems like a special gift to me. I feel lucky to have so many wonderful books all around me.

12 books for February 2016













Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. How do I incorporate time for reading into my day?
  2. What factors prevent me from reading a good story or work of nonfiction?
  3. How can I develop the habit of reading and ensure I am exposed to its joys and benefits?

Click the link below for your free PDF


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Hormone changes can cause your teen to shift moods quickly

Warning Signs Your Teenager is in Serious Trouble

Warning Signs Your Teenager is in Serious Trouble

Your teenager could be in serious trouble, but it’s not always easy to recognize it. Teenagers are masters at hiding their issues and emotions.

If you’re worried your teenager might be in trouble, consider these warning signs:

  1. Isolation from friends and family. If your teenager suddenly chooses to be isolated from friends and family, then you may want to ask questions.
  • An outgoing teen who suddenly becomes reclusive and avoids others may be hiding trouble. A sudden change in behavior can be a serious warning sign. If you notice this in your teen, it’s important to explore it.
  • Your teenager may be hiding in their room more often because they don’t want you to see them using drugs, alcohol, or other substances.
  1. Extreme mood swings. It’s normal for teenagers to have mood swings because of changing hormones. However, extreme mood swings that include aggression and violence are warning signs. The teenager may be experiencing serious health issues, drug issues, peer pressure, or other concerns.
  • Hormone changes can cause your teen to shift moods quickly. However, these mood swings shouldn’t be scary or overwhelming.
  1. Taking unusual risks. Teenagers want to push boundaries and explore their world. However, if your teen starts taking unusual risks that aren’t part of his or her typical behavior, be on the alert.
  • Extreme risk taking can be a warning sign your teenager is in trouble. The trouble can range from drug or alcohol abuse to serious peer pressure.
  1. Falling grades. If your straight-A student suddenly starts to get failing grades, it’s important to find out why.
  • A teenager who suddenly stops paying attention in class or stops doing homework may be in trouble. Teens may earn different grades throughout high school, but sudden and dramatic changes could be warning signs. Your teen may even drop out of school.
  1. Strange new friends. Did your teenager stop being friends with their old pals and join a new group? Are you concerned about the new friends and their influence on the teen?
  • New friends may be a sign of trouble if they’re pressuring your teen or offering drugs and alcohol. New friends may also be a sign that the teen is simply growing and changing. It’s important to carefully evaluate your teen’s closest friends.
  1. Sudden issues with memory. Teens may forget things on occasion, but teenagers who frequently forget everything may be in trouble. This could be a sign of drug and alcohol abuse. It can also be a sign of mental health issues and other physical health issues.
  1. Is your teen suddenly suspicious of everything and everyone around them? They may be suffering, but they’re not able to express it.
  • Paranoia and suspicion can be signs of mental health issues. They can also accompany drug and alcohol abuse.
  1. Destructive behavior. Destructive behavior can range from physically demolishing furniture at home to other issues such as hurting themselves.
  • If your teenager starts to hurt animals, family members, friends, or themselves, then it’s time to intervene. They may also try to destroy property and physical items.
  • It’s important to take action before the destructive behavior leads to arrests or hospitalizations. The teenager’s actions may even create permanent and lasting damage that hurts others.

Teenagers may try to hide the seriousness of their situation. However, if you learn the warning signs, then it’s easier to recognize that they’re struggling and help them.

Click this link to find more Help for Parents of Troubled Teens

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Appeal to your child’s interests

A Guide for Parents Who Want to Strengthen Their Child’s STEM Skills

Work with  your  daughters  and sons.

If you want your children to develop their thinking abilities and succeed in the workforce, they’re going to need STEM skills. That’s the acronym educators use for Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math.

While politicians, teachers, and parents all sound enthusiastic about the importance of math and science, the U.S. has an uneven track record on the subject. More Americans are receiving graduate degrees in these areas, but U.S. students still rank low on international STEM assessments, and that’s especially true for girls.

According to government figures, women make up half the college-educated workforce, but only about one-quarter of the college-educated work force in science and engineering positions. Meanwhile, jobs in those fields are growing much faster than other occupations.

Show your child that being good at math and science pays off. Try these tips for broadening their opportunities by strengthening STEM skills. .

Click this link below for more on STEM SKILLS

The 10 Best STEM Resources

Steps to Take at Home

  1. Make it practical. Science extends far beyond the classroom. Explain fractions and chemical reactions while you’re doing your grocery shopping or baking a cake.
  2. Appeal to your child’s interests. There can be a technological dimension to any subject that your child loves. Talk about how video replay systems work while you’re watching a sports game. Explain how musicians use computers to edit music.
  3. Spark children’s interest by engaging them in fun activities. Wooden blocks can introduce kids to counting. Many interesting science experiments require nothing more than ordinary objects you have in your kitchen cupboards or garage.
  4. Plan an outing. Check your community calendars for enriching local activities. Visit the zoo to see how modern medicine is helping endangered species to breed. Attend a workshop at the natural history museum.
  5. Browse online. Many organizations produce STEM materials to share with your kids, including games and videos. Visit PBS, the National Geographic Society, and NASA for starters.

Steps to Take at School

  1. Start early. Studies show that girls have similar abilities to boys in science and math, but they may lose confidence in their abilities as early as elementary school. Work with your daughters and sons before high school so they’ll keep the door open for academic options that lead to STEM careers.
  2. Talk with the teacher. Many schools face a shortage of qualified STEM teachers, and the curricula may be limited. Ask your child’s teacher about what your school offers.
  3. Continue your education. Naturally, you’ll be a stronger advocate if you brush up on your own skills. Invite your children to teach you some geometry while they’re doing their homework. Read the science section in a major newspaper at least once a week.
  4. Explore extracurricular activities. Supplement your child’s classroom courses with explorer’s clubs and science camps. They may want to build their own robot or design video games. Group activities are also an excellent way for your child to connect with inspiring mentors.
  5. Discover resources. Parents may be able to work together if tight school budgets are an issue. Research government grants for which your school may be eligible. Local businesses may want to become more involved so they can attract qualified future workers.
  6. Discuss course selections. One promising study found that children took more science and math courses in their last two years of high school if their parents received a couple of brochures about STEM. Simple interventions can have dramatic results.

Appeal to your child’s interests

Parents play a powerful role in their children’s education. Help your sons and daughters build a strong foundation in math and science so they’ll be ready to succeed in the workforce of the future.

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I expose my family to a variety of experiences.

I’m a Martial Artist And Pressure is a Privilege. I am a man and it’s all about morals and values

Martial Artist
Martial Artist

Sharing new experiences with my family is a source of great joy for me. I enjoy going on adventures and seeing new things with those I love. My family and I participate in a wide range of activities together because I want us to be well rounded.

I am taking an active role in teaching my family about culture and art. When I plan our monthly activities, I look for information on local museums and art exhibits that we can visit together.

Our monthly activities also include time spent listening to live music by various artists from a wide range of backgrounds. I expose my family to every genre of music, from classical orchestra to modern pop. I allow my family members to explore their own musical preferences.

I take my family to formal restaurants as well as home-style diners. I am selfless enough to put aside my personal preferences so my children can visit many new places.

The people I hang out with are as different as the flowers in a garden, each beautiful in their own way. I love people from all walks of life and from all socioeconomic backgrounds.

By loving others without regard to status, wealth, or other characteristics, I am teaching my family to open their hearts to true friendship.

Today, I choose to take the limits off my family’s experiences. I encourage us to venture out of the comfortable bubble of the familiar and to adventure into the unknown. I put personal preferences aside to enrich the lives of my children with new experiences.

I am a classic man.
Ismael Rodriguez

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What out-of-the-ordinary activity can I share with my children this weekend?
2. How can I teach my children to accept others?
3. In what ways does a wide range of experiences help my children?



PREVENT CHILD ABDUCTION AND EXPLOITATIONKnow where your children are at all times. Be familiar with their friends and daily activities. Teach your child if he or she becomes lost to quickly tell a policeman that he or she needs help.

Be sensitive to changes in your children’s behavior; they are a signal that you should sit down and talk to them.

Be alert to a teenager or adult who is paying an unusual amount of attention to your children or giving them inappropriate or expensive gifts.

Teach your children to trust their own feelings, and assure them that they have the right to say no to what they sense is wrong.

Listen carefully to your children’s fears, and be supportive in all your discussions with them.

Teach your children that no one should approach them or touch them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable. If someone does, they must tell you immediately.

Be careful about babysitters and any other individuals who have custody of your children. Obtain references from people you trust and see if you can have access to background screening information about these individuals. Many states give people access to sex offender registries and criminal histories.


As soon as your children can articulate a sentence, they can begin the process of learning how to protect themselves against abduction and exploitation.

Children should be taught

If you are in a public place, and you get separated from your parents, don’t wander around looking for them. Go to a checkout counter, the security office, or the lost and found and quickly tell the person in charge that you have lost your mom and dad and need help finding them.

You should not get into a car or go anywhere with any person unless your parents have told you that it is okay.

If someone follows you on foot or in a car, stay away from him or her. You should not get close to any car, unless your parent or a trusted adult accompanies you.

Grownups and others who need help should not ask children for help; they should ask older people.

No one should ask you for directions or for help loooking for a “lost puppy”, or tell you that your mother or father is in trouble and that he or she will take you to them.

If someone tries to take you somewhere, quickly get away from him (or her) and yell or scream, “This man (woman) is trying to take me away” or “This person is not my father (mother).”

You should try to take a friend with you, and never go places alone.

Always ask your parents’ permission to leave the yard or play area or to go into someone’s home.

Never hitchhike or try to get a ride home with anyone unless your parents have told you it is okay to ride with him or her.

If someone wants to take your picture, tell him or her no and tell your parents or teacher.

No one should touch you in the parts of the body that would be covered by a bathing suit, nor should you touch anyone else in those areas. Your body is special and private.

Children should be taught If you are in a public place, and you get separated from your parents, don’ be afrain to get help immediately. You can be assertive, and you have the right to say no to someone who tries to take you somewhere, touches you, or makes you feel uncomfortable, scared, or confused in any way.

Lengthening Your Child’s Attention Span

A Martial Arts Parent’s Guide to Lengthening Your Child’s Attention Span

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It’s natural for children to feel restless, and the pace of modern life can make it even more difficult for them to concentrate. Video games and the internet provide constant stimulation, and immediate gratification. Kids may struggle when it comes time to listen to their teacher or perform any task that requires focusing on one thing and resisting distractions.

In fact, 87% of teachers said that modern technologies were creating a generation with short attention spans, according to a recent survey by The Pew Research Center.

As a concerned parent, you may wonder what you can do to help your child extend their attention span so that they can grow up to be productive and peaceful. Consider these suggestions.

Providing a Supportive Environment

  1. Serve nutritious foods. Fuel your child’s brain and stabilize their blood sugar with a balanced diet. They’ll want to eat their vegetables if you cut them into fun shapes and dip them in colorful sauces. Keep soda, chips, and candy to a minimum.
  2. Exercise daily. Physical activity keeps our minds sharp at any age. Gather together for a walk after dinner. Buy a gym membership for the whole family.
  3. Limit screen time. Pediatricians recommend two hours a day or less of TV and internet browsing. Decide which shows you want to watch and turn the set off in between.
  4. Rest and relax. Stick to consistent bedtimes even on weekends and summer vacations.
  5. Make learning fun. Maybe your son squirms after 10 minutes of doing homework, but you have to drag him away from his favorite video games. Turn schoolwork and chores into a contest that he’ll enjoy.
  6. Adjust your schedule. Children usually have at least one time of day when they’re at peak performance. Arrange for piano lessons before school or after lunch so the timing matches their personality.
  7. Provide a positive role model. Your child will appreciate the importance of concentrating if they see how it enhances your home life. Listen to them attentively when they describe their day at school. Team up to bake cupcakes or weed the garden.

Encouraging Constructive Habits

 Communicate face to face. It’s convenient to stay in touch by calling and texting, but kids need practice with in-person conversations. Plan for family dinners and weekend outings.

  1. Practice self-talk. Anxiety can cause a lack of focus. Guide your child on how to give themselves a pep talk when they face a challenging situation.
  2. Head outdoors. Nature has a powerful effect on our minds. A hike through the woods or an afternoon tending plants in a greenhouse will help your child to slow down and become more observant.
  3. Breathe deeply. Our breathing also influences our thoughts and feelings. Bring your child to a yoga class where they can receive instructions on fun breathing exercises. Buy them a harmonica or blow soap bubbles.
  4. Work on crafts. Children love to immerse themselves in hand-on activities like arts and crafts. Visit your local library and browse online for project ideas. You can turn a milk bottle into a bird feeder or decoupage an old picture frame.
  5. Read books. Story time is an ideal opportunity to train your child to focus while you deepen your relationship and prepare for bed. Let your child pick books that interest them, and take turns reading to each other.
  6. Make believe. For playtime, rely on toys and activities that stretch your child’s imagination. Build a stove out of a cardboard box. Act out a scene from a comic book.

Help your child to succeed in school and in the workplace. The power of concentration will help them to live mindfully, harness their energies, and achieve more with less effort.