Monthly Archives: July 2016

Ask yourself these two questions

Two Questions That Give You All the Perspective You Need.

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It’s easy to get bogged down with all the available self-help information. You might be surprised at how much you can benefit from asking yourself just a couple of questions! Your answers will help you determine if you’re on track to reaching your goals and enable you to make an action plan that will get you there in record time.

Ask yourself these two questions:

  1. “If an invisible person followed you around all day, what would they see?”Would they see you wasting a lot of time? Would they see you working at your goals? Would they see someone that is just going through the motions?Our lives are largely the result of the actions that we take each day. Are you taking actions that move you forward to the future you desire or are you engaged in time-wasting, worthless activity?

    What would that invisible person logically conclude about you, your life, and your future?

  2. “If you lived that average day, every day, for the next 5 years, what is the logical outcome?”So if you kept living your average day over and over, where is your life likely to end up? Now compare that logical conclusion with the life you’d like to have. How close are they?Are you likely to end up where you want to be financially? Are you currently taking consistent action to have the financial life you desire?

    Are you likely to have the body that you want? Are you eating nutritiously

    and exercising regularly? Or are you waiting to start tomorrow, or Monday, or the first of the month, or the first of the year? Getting the body you want will take a certain number of days, so you might as well start today.

Are you likely to be enjoying the type of relationships you desire? If you want to meet your dream wife, how many new women have you spoken to in the last week? How many have you asked out?

Are you likely to be advancing in the career you seek? For example, based on your performance over the last year, do you think it’s probable that you’ll get that plant manager position  anytime soon? Are you any closer to having that small business running profitably?

Now you can make some reasonable plans and create some good habits. What do you need to do on a consistent basis to achieve the life you hope for? If you want to lose 10 inches off your waist and weigh 75 lbs less, then your daily actions need to reflect that.

People largely fail to end up where they wish to be for two reasons:

1. They have no idea where they’re going. You can’t get there if you don’t know the destination. If you don’t have a plan, you must live by default, sitting around until something goes wrong and then spending your energy fixing the issue. Alternatively, if you spend your energy driving towards something, you’ll eventually get there.

2. They don’t do the things each day that will create the life they want. In spite of what many gurus seem to claim, you can’t wish your way to success. Success is the result of making positive decisions and taking actions that reflect those decisions.

Ask yourself the two questions above. You might be shocked when you really look at your average day and realize where you’re likely to end up as a result of doing those same things every day. It doesn’t take a lot to be very successful, but it does take consistency.

For instance, imagine if you did 1 pushup every day this week and added 1 pushup a week. In 5 years you would be doing 250 pushups a day and you would never struggle for a minute.

In the same way, establishing daily habits that move you forward toward achieving your goals will result in your success. So which habit will you start today?

Niji No Hashi Dojo Martial Arts in Cary, Morrisville, North Carolina

College Preparation Tips to Give Your High School Senior

Successful people come from all backgrounds and levels of education

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Going to college can be a stressful time for parents and their children. It’s a time of great change, with a lot of laughs and tears. Even though your senior may be ready to go to college, it’s still going to be a big adjustment. The more prepared for college they are, the better their chances of succeeding and staying happy during their time away at school.

You’ll want to give your child the best information and support you can. Every child is different, but there are some things that every college-bound senior should know.

Remember the Importance of More Than “Book-Learning”

College is about new experiences and not all of them take place in the classroom. In order to help your high school senior be as prepared for college as possible, do all you can to ensure they’re ready for life inside and outside of the classroom.

  1. Remind them that their relationships will change, no matter who they’re with.
  2. Repeat that they have your support – no matter what direction life takes.
  3. Equip them with knowledge about alcohol, drugs, sex, and other serious matters.
  4. Provide only an agreed-upon sum of money, and only when necessary.
  5. Discuss the future with real world examples, so they’re focused on success.

There is so much to a college experience today, and it’ll be different for each person. Some of that is due to differences in personality, but some of it also depends on how far away from home the college is. If a student is living at home, his college experience may be far different than a student who is hundreds or even thousands of miles away from his parents.

The influence you have over your child throughout the senior year in high school will change when they go off to college. Understand that even the best parenting doesn’t always save a child from challenges. You can prepare your child for college, but then it’s up to them.

The Value of Education in Today’s World

Education is becoming more and more valuable with each passing year. Technology is changing the way things are done and those with higher education are generally the ones who see the most success. It can be hard to get a high school senior to take the future seriously, but imparting good information is vital.

When you see your senior off to college, remember that there will be somewhat of a trial and error style of learning, at least at first. Some people are ready for college right out of high school, and some aren’t. If your child isn’t ready and doesn’t perform well, don’t despair. He can attend college at a later date and do just fine.

In short, don’t assume that your child will perform exactly the way you expect; all you can do is give the best information and support you have to offer. Keep in mind that your young adult is an individual and will have to find his or her own way. The life experienced in college and beyond is up to them!

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The Modern Rules of Subconscious Mind

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How to End Believing in the Power of Your Subconscious Mind

Whether you like it or not, your  is the boss of you. Even when you make a conscious decision to go after something you want, it’s your subconscious that determines whether you’ll take consistent action to get it!

Once you understand how your subconscious works, you can be in touch with yourself on a deep level. You’ll have the keys to living an abundant, fulfilling life, and all you’ll need to do is unlock that door.

What is the Subconscious Mind?

Your mind is similar to an iceberg. The conscious mind is like the part of the iceberg that you can see above the surface. But the bulk of the mind – the subconscious – is below the surface where you can’t see.

There are certain thoughts and processes that go on inside your mind that you may not be aware of on a conscious level, such as beliefs, instincts, and memories. Everything you’ve ever seen or heard is sitting somewhere in your subconscious, affecting your current thoughts, decisions, and actions.

Communicating with the subconscious mind is a popular topic in the realms of self-help and psychoanalysis. This is because getting to the core of your beliefs by tapping into the subconscious is the fastest way to implement desired changes in your life.

The Power of Beliefs

Your subconscious mind contains a vast amount of information. It’s more than your conscious mind could ever handle. Sometimes you might just have a “feeling” about something and then find out that the “feeling” was right on target. In many cases, it’s your subconscious mind that sends you such signals.

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