Monthly Archives: November 2015

Stop Dreaming you don’t know how many more tomorrows you’ll enjoy

Learn These Important Life Lessons Before It’s Too Late

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Imagine how much different your life would be if you could start over again. You’d probably choose a different career and put your time and energy into different things. There are many life lessons you can learn right now.

You could live the remainder of your life feeling passionate, joyous, and fulfilled!

Consider how these lessons might apply to your life

  1. It’s impossible to please everyone. Even if you’re the kindest, smartest, funniest person to ever walk the Earth, someone out there won’t like you. There’s no way to make everyone happy. So, do what you can to please others while making yourself
  2. No one else cares. Sure, your friends and family care to a point. But everyone else is usually too preoccupied with their own life to worry about your successes and failures.
  • Nobody is watching. Feel free to make mistakes and be silly
  1. The older you become, the more important your health will be to you. Health is only important to us when it’s failing. After you develop a few aches and pains that never go away, you start to realize that your body will eventually fail you.
  • Get a head start and begin taking care of yourself today.
  1. There are only so many tomorrows. We put off everything until tomorrow, Monday, or next year. Time is passing by. You don’t know how many more tomorrows you’ll enjoy. Get busy making the most of them.
  2. Apologize quickly. Life is too short for petty disagreements and grudges. Be the bigger person and apologize.
  3. You can change. You can change your weight, income, social life, career, and just about anything else you please. Your limitations only exist in your mind. 
  4. Television will steal your life. Television is a big, sucking, black hole. If the best thing you can find to do with your time is watch television, you might consider working on your life. No one ever improved their existence via the power of TV. It’s a highly effective way to distract yourself, but it solves nothing.
  5. You’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the things you did. When you look back on your foolish choices, you’ll laugh. When you look back on the things you didn’t do, you’ll feel a sting that never goes away. If you’re not risking your life, take your best shot. 
  6. Money is great for solving certain challenges, but it’s not a cure for everything. Some people say that money solves nothing. Love is all that matters. But love won’t pay the mortgage, feed your family, or repair a flat tire. Money is a necessary part of life, but it doesn’t solve all your problems. Money and love are necessary, just not for the same things.
  7. Your level of success will matter less at the end of your life. Up until middle age, we put too much emphasis on our careers. It’s only later in life that we realize there were other things more worthy of our time. Have you ever heard a dying man lament that he didn’t spend more time working? You never will.

 

Consider these lessons to be the message your older self might tell you today.

You can take advantage of the wisdom you haven’t experienced yet.

People at the end of their lives repeat these life lessons consistently. You’ll likely feel the same way in the future. Why not live now like the wise person you’ll someday become?

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Acknowledge your anger and then concentrate on fixing the situation

A Completely Different Approach to Venting

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If you believe that screaming or punching a bag in a Martial arts Dojo will make you feel less angry, think again. Studies show that venting unpleasant emotions can reinforce those feelings. On the other hand, like Sigmund Freud said, bottling them up is usually even worse.

So, what can you do with your anger and anxiety? Try these tips for processing and expressing difficult feelings.

Preventing Unpleasant Feelings

  • Take a deep breath. Tension builds up quickly. When another driver cuts you off, pause and pay attention to your breathing. Loosen up your shoulders and neck. Think about something that makes you laugh.
  • Accept discomfort. Distracted drivers and earthquakes are part of life. Plan for delays and obstacles so they stop taking you by surprise.
  • Care for yourself. Healthy lifestyle habits make you more resilient. Eat a balanced diet and exercise regularly. Maintain a consistent bedtime that allows for adequate sleep.
  • Shift your attention. Stop feeding the flames. Catch yourself when you’re dwelling on last night’s argument with your teenage daughter or next month’s water bill. Lighten up by watching YouTube videos or meeting a friend for coffee.

Viewing Unpleasant Feelings Differently

  • Question your assumptions. It’s difficult to resist blowing off steam if you still believe it will provide relief. Check in with yourself a half-hour later to see if your anger is gone. Read studies about how road rage can affect your heart.
  • Set priorities. It’s worth fighting injustice if your child is being bullied at school. If another shopper wants to count four cans of cat food as one item, it makes more sense to be flexible.
  • Assume responsibility. Indignation is less tempting when you face how you contributed to the situation. Did you criticize your daughter about her grades when you meant to discuss cleaning up her bedroom?
  • Focus on solutions. Unpleasant feelings can be beneficial when they prompt you to take action. Acknowledge your anger, and then concentrate on fixing the situation.

Responding to Unpleasant Feelings Differently

  • Seek validation. Talk with a friend or family member about your concerns. Receiving compassion and support will help you to cheer up and put things in perspective.
  • Ask for feedback. Confidantes who have nothing at stake in the situation may also help you to clarify your perceptions and understand your options. Talk about how to deal with neighbors who throw noisy parties or keep borrowing your parking spot.
  • Negotiate conflicts. When possible, approach the other party in a dispute directly. Work out compromises so you and your neighbors can be friends.
  • Consider counseling. If you’re angry or upset more often than usual, there may be underlying causes that you need to explore. Therapy provides a safe forum for healing and developing new life skills.
  • Write it out. Maybe a journal would help. Keep track of what is triggering your irritation or sadness. Are you working too much overtime or struggling with single parenting?
  • Stay offline. You’ve probably read stories about employees who lost their jobs because they thought it was safe to complain about customers or their boss online. Even if you remain anonymous, prolonged griping is likely to leave you feeling more disgruntled.
  • Create new patterns. The good news is that each time you decide to pursue constructive remedies instead of whining, you train yourself to become more calm and resourceful. Soon you’ll have little desire to vent.

It may feel gratifying to have a meltdown over your property taxes or snap back at a disruptive coworker, but indulging those impulses comes at a high price. Protect your physical health, relationships, and peace of mind by dealing with unpleasant emotions constructively.

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Recognize and challenge negative ideas that come from fear.

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We are naturally drawn to anything that gives us a strong sense of purpose for our life.

Without a positive way to interpret our experience (and abundant amounts of data!), we would find life quite empty. The human spirit yearns for making sense of it’s reality. This drive is so strong that we have always had stories and myths that we have lived by and lived through. We are naturally drawn to anything that gives us a strong sense of purpose for our life

Niji No Hashi Dojo Recommend Books

Bring the Joy of Reading Books Back Into Your Life

Sculpture the mind the same way you want to sculpture your body.

12 books for November

1: HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE BY DALE CARNEGIE

2: HOW GOOGLE WORKS BY ERIC SCHMIDT

3: SCREW IT, LET’S DO IT: LESSONS IN LIFE AND BUSINESS BY RICHARD BRANSON

4: THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE BY STEPHEN R. COVEY

5: WHERE GOOD IDEAS COME FROM BY STEVEN JOHNSON

6: KING RAT BY JAMES CLAVELL

7: ALASKA BY JAMES A. MICHENER

8: THE ART OF WAR BY SUN TZU

9: THE SELF-MADE BILLIONAIRE EFFECT: HOW EXTREME PRODUCERS CREATE MASSIVE VALUE BY JOHN SVIOKLA & MITCH COHEN

10: BOUNCE BY MATTHEW SYED

11: SUBLIMINAL: HOW YOUR UNCONSCIOUS MIND RULES YOUR BEHAVIOR BY LEONARD MLODINOW

12: PLOWMAN’S FOLLY BY EDWARD H. FAULKNER

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BY DALE CARNEGIE

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HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE BY DALE CARNEGIE

Some Straight Talk About Fitness

What Every Weekend martial arts Warrior Ought to Know about Fitness

 

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According to many estimates, only 1 out of 5 Americans gets the recommended amount of exercise each week. On top of that, some of them are trying to cram their whole workout program into 2 days. Can being a weekend warrior be good for your health?

It depends. On the one hand, even small amounts of exercise can be beneficial. On the other hand, regular workouts provide superior conditioning and lower your risk of injuries. Take a look at these suggestions for staying safe and fit all week long.

Preventing Common Weekend Warrior Injuries 

  1. Talk with your doctor. While athletes tend to experience overuse injuries that heal after some rest, weekend warriors are more prone to acute injuries that require medical treatment. Call your doctor or go to an emergency room if a joint or bone feels strange or can’t bear weight. Prolonged discomfort and excessive swelling are also warning signs.
  2. Avoid muscle strains. Muscles tear when they’re stretched too far. Spend at least 5 minutes warming up, and work on your flexibility each day.
  3. Protect your tendons. The most frequently injured tendon is the Achilles that pushes your foot off the ground when you walk or run. The victims are usually men who participate in sports infrequently. Care for your tendons with calf raises and other SOLUTION NEGATIVE IMPACT or BURNING DESIRE?SOLUTION NEGATIVE IMPACT or BURNING DESIRE?WHAT Planning Kit: RESULT in TIMEFRAME Without USUAL PROBLEMSUNUSUAL ADJECTIVE NOUN that BURNING DESIRE in SHORT TIME PERIODUNUSUAL ADJECTIVE NOUN that BURNING DESIRE in SHORT TIME PERIOD, and lose any excess weight.
  4. Soothe lower back pain. Exercise is good for your back, but some movements can cause repetitive stress. If you’re sore, try alternatives like yoga or swimming.

Tips for Weekends

 Watch for fatigue. Are you listening to your body? Stop what you’re doing if you’re shaking and feeling exhausted. That’s when you’re more likely to have an accident.

  1. Learn good form. Proper technique is also a good way to stay safe. Work with a trainer or watch a friend who has more experience. Browse online for advice or pick up a book at the library.
  2. Adjust your competitive drive. You may need to dial down the intensity even if you were a track star in high school or you’re playing basketball with a buddy who’s urging you on. Consider your age and physical condition.
  3. Mix it up. Maybe you head to the softball field each Saturday or jog through the park. Varying your routine will help you target other body parts for a change.
  4. Be gentle. Vigorous exercise is effective, but you can still start small. Burn calories gardening or playing with your dog.

Tips for Weekdays

  1. Move more. If you have trouble squeezing in a visit to the gym on workdays, you can still become more physically active. Climb the stairs instead of riding the elevator. Buy dumbbells or a treadmill you can use at home.
  2. Sit less. You’ve probably heard news stories about the health consequences of extensive sitting. Take breaks at work to stroll around.
  3. Train in short intervals. Brief periods of intense activity can do wonders for your muscles and heart. Jump rope or run for 5 minutes.
  4. Manage your time. Keep track of what you’re doing with your free time. Maybe you could work out regularly if you woke up an hour earlier or asked your kids to help with the chores. As usual, you’re more likely to find time for activities you love, so consider dance classes or fencing if that’s your passion.

If possible, make exercise part of your daily routine instead of saving all the fun for your weekend. Whenever you work out, choose a program that matches your fitness level and feel good about strengthening your body and mind through physical activity.